When you don't know what to pray in grief

“You count my wanderings. You put my tears into your container. Aren’t they in your book?”

Psalms 56:8

“In the same way, the Spirit also helps our weaknesses, for we don’t know how to pray as we ought. But the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings which can’t be uttered. He who searches the hearts knows what is on the Spirit’s mind, because he makes intercession for the saints according to God.”

Romans 8:26–27